Do We Really Grasp How Good We Have It, Or Are We Too Busy Complaining?

How much do we complain? Day by day we find things that make us angry, disappointed, frustrated, that just puts us in a really bad mood. We always find a way to justify our attitude, we reason with ourselves how we deserve things to go a certain way and if its not that way we are mad and sometimes even take it out on our friends, loved ones, or our coworkers. I worked with a great lady a couple years ago, she would often say something like, ” I have a lot going on in my life, times are hard and I start to think, why me Lord? Then I think, why not you? What makes me so special?” She had a lot of wisdom and had been through quite the hell ringer throughout her past. It always pops in my mind when I start getting frustrated and start thinking, why me myself. There are so many people out there that have it so much worse then myself. Out in this great big world someone has just buried their baby boy or baby girl. Someone has been diagnosed with cancer or some other horrible life threatening illness. I have a pretty good job, a roof over me and my family’s head, the means to pay my bills, even if there is no savings. I may not be rich, but I have been blessed multiple times by the love of God. I have seen my own daughters life spared, blessed with an unplanned son, and work for an amazing boss that makes my life a lot easier on me then what it was in the past. Do things go wrong sometimes? Sure! Do I get angry and complain at times? You better believe it! I started thinking about how people, how I am ungrateful sometimes. Do we really have the right to complain? I googled pictured of other countries cause I started thinking about how other people have things so much worse then I do. The pictures that came up were over overwhelmingly heart breaking.

Instead of complaining that someone was mean to us, complain that someone charges us too much money, or complain that we don’t have the next best thing out on the market, we should take a look at the rest of the world. People are hurting, starving, no place to live, no fresh water in some places, and no way to treat sickness properly. There are people that would trade all our bad days cause theirs are so much worse. There are people who would give anything to have a couple bites of the food we complained about at the restaurant because it just wasn’t hot enough. The water someone through away cause it got too warm, would have been gold to someone who hasn’t had a good clean drink in, well, maybe never.

So why do we complain so much? Why cant we focus on the good and stop dwelling on the bad? Maybe if we focused more on other people and their needs and less on what is wrong in our own lives things would improve. God put us on this earth to help one another, to love each other and to be His arms and feet. I have been guilty of looking past the person that is on the street, to barely notice he or she is even there, but maybe paying more attention would help, maybe a little acknowledgment would brighten someone’s day who is feeling really bad in life and dealing with far more problems then our average ones. instead of saying, “why me Lord” we should say, “Lord, send me to someone that I can help, that I can sympathize with. Let me be a light in their darkened world that they will see things can and will get better, that they just need to trust in you. When you feel angry, and start feeling like there is much to complain or be down about, think about people around the world, or even in your own town, who would love to have your bad day in exchange for their own. Its not “why me Lord”? Its, ” I’m under attack, the enemy must be wanting to stop me from blessing someone else by discouraging me and trying to break me. Stand strong and be someone else’s beacon of light, be the witness of how trusting God and relying on Him brings peace. There is no greater blessing then to help others and see past our own needs, and from the looks of it, the needs of others, the bad days for others may not even come close to our own. Be a blessing, and be blessed.



Author: heidifowler

I'm a 34 year old with 3 wonderful kids, an amazing husband that ended up rescuing me from who i thought was trying to rescue me. i am the woman that makes mistakes but learns from them. i am not who i was a little over a year ago. last year i was easily manipulated, being made to feel guilty, and struck down by people i trusted. this year i have learned about myself and still to be strong. how to protect myself and never be a victim again.

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