New Year goals. Make it count!

Today is a brand-new year; new starts in life, new boundaries, new goals. It’s a time to move on from past hurts, to forgive others, or maybe even yourself for things that were done wrong to you, for mistakes you may have made. No one is perfect, but the great thing about our imperfections is that we can get up and start all over again. Some people may not have faith in you, they may discourage you, they may talk smack about you, but never be dismayed because in God’s eyes we are just humans that He waits for us to come to Him with all our problems, sorrows, and mess ups. Every year I have made new goals, mostly about getting out of debt, or getting a shift change in my hours at work. A few years ago I was blessed with the ability to have my hours changed to day shift. moving off of third shift trying to raise 2 kids, at the time, was one of the biggest blessings for me. Last year I was blessed with the joy of having a baby boy. Though the debt goal is completely out, I was able to quit my waitressing job and work amazing hours, with an amazing boss! Every year God has done something new and great in my life, don’t get me wrong, there has been plenty of let downs as well, but if you focus more on the good and less on the negative you create your own world of happiness instead of being pulled into a world of depression. I have felt myself slip into the; I’m so sad, life is over baring, poor me drama, and it is not something to focus on. As last year was rolling by I heard people talking about new year resolutions and what they were planning for 2018, I thought about it for myself and realized I hadn’t given it one thought for this year. I had no goals, no changes to be made, and no care about setting a goal for myself. Today, now that it is a brand new year, I have finally thought of my goals. My goal is; to read more Bible stories with my children, to get back into my ‘prayer closet’ and start building my prayer life back up, I had been doing well with this at one point, but I had been heavily distracted with my time being sucked away trying to help a former friend with their depression, in the mean time losing my walk with God due to wasted time cause I, all by myself, could never help this individual, he really didn’t want help, he was one of those “chronic complainers.” Note to people out there, don’t try to fix someone with talking non stop and devoting all your time to them, you are better off to talk and listen for a little while, but focus mainly on praying for them when you start to see no outcome in trying to help. Don’t lose yourself while trying to rid the world of sadness, sometimes its really hard to come back from a world that has sucked you in and away from God and your own happiness. So, back to my goals for 2018!
I have already listed a better prayer life, but I am also going to focus on helping my children learn more about kindness and love toward one another. This has been a problem in our home, the respect that is given to strangers is not given to each other by my children. I know it’s normal for sibling rivalry, but to keep letting it grow causes less peace in our home. One of my prayers is for God to show me how to deal with this situation and guide me down the right path for the best outcome to have more love and peace in our home.
My next goal is to make sure I start focusing more on positive things and to not dwell on the negative, to not feel my blood start to boil when certain people that have done me wrong cross my mind. It’s human nature to feel angry at wrong doers, but that’s where prayer takes over and helps to get rid of the anger. My pastor stated in church this past Sunday something like this, ” it’s hard to be complaining if God’s praises on your lips.” The Bible does say to be angry and sin not, so clearly it’s not sinful to be angry, but i find that if you don’t try to put the fire of anger out it festers into something greater that can turn into sin. Besides, living angry doesn’t provide comfort and good feelings, it provides a more hostile lifestyle and a feeling of despair that can lead to destruction of your mind.

Another goal is to try to give the benefit of the doubt with people, to not judge them harshly, but to also use wisdom. Some people are bad to be around and we are best to keep away from them, toxic people cause a toxic surrounding. These kind of people are who I have to learn to be diligent in my prayer life for. Their souls are at stake and they need a warrior’s prayer.

God’s word tells us to pray for our enemies. This is another goal, to put all the people I no longer speak to, due to their choice or my own, on my prayer list and to not begrudge them the prayers of blessing and prosperity.
New Year really has never meant a whole lot of difference to me, it always seemed like just another day and it sort of is. Every day is a bran new start, so why do we have to wrap up everything we did wrong from one past year and set our goals just cause it’s a “new year?” Every day we should try to be a better person then we were before, but now I see this is a good thing to dwell on because we can have a year of mess ups and not really see it until later. Our lives are flying by so quickly that it can be an entire year until a person really does a self examination, and what better way to fix things other then when starting a new year? So, New Year goals are great and good encouragement for each person to try to fix their outcome to being a better person, but lets never forget, it’s also good to live everyday as new years day and try to keep our best goals alive and start new. After all we are not promised tomorrow, but if you make it to a new year, by God’s grace, then poor your whole heart into it and make it the best with your improvements. Every day is a brand-new day, every year is a fresh start, so give it your best and always keep trying and believe in yourself.


Author: heidifowler

I'm a 34 year old with 3 wonderful kids, an amazing husband that ended up rescuing me from who i thought was trying to rescue me. i am the woman that makes mistakes but learns from them. i am not who i was a little over a year ago. last year i was easily manipulated, being made to feel guilty, and struck down by people i trusted. this year i have learned about myself and still to be strong. how to protect myself and never be a victim again.

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