A Sexual assaulter admit it? Never

see my “me too” story here

So, my loving husband contacted the piece of crap that assaulted me and of course he lied and said that i was ” actively lying” yes.. Cause i really have a reason to lie about that. He threatened me, yet again, that he is going to talk to his lawyer to see about a law suit against me for slander and see if there is any other law suits he could possibly put against me. Lol. Thats rich!! Specially since i have in no way slandered anyone. Im not stupid enough to tell his name. I learned that from him when he was slandering me on his facebook. He never put who he was talking about so i couldn’t get him for slander. Nice try loser, you can’t prove anything cause there is no name affiliated with my blogs. He went on to state that me and my husband are acting like teenagers and there are consequences for our Behavior . Yeah and there’s consequences for sexually assaulting somebody. It’s not acting like a teenager by telling the truth about what that little piece of crap did to me. Manipulating to get your way, chasing a married woman non stop and not leaving her alone/continuing to touch or kiss her anyway when she tells you no is what is acting like a teenager. Besides, my story isn’t published to call out one individual, writing my story is my own personal therapy to deal with the emotions of what he did to me and how he manipulated me and to maybe help others dealing with the same crap. He went into this long lying message with he doesn’t want to hear from my husband or me again. Dumb butt, you haven’t heard from me since i kicked you out of my life. My husband also contacted j’s mother at one point telling her about what had happened. That was the day i came to grips with what had happened between j and myself over a year ago. I was very upset and text my husband everything that was going on in my head. I needed someone to talk to. All this time i had been made to feel guilty, as though i had done something wrong when it was all pretty much him. I was guilty of telling him we couldn’t hold hands, guilty of continuing to talk to him, guilty of not telling him bluntly to stop talking sexually to me, guilty of not reporting him to the police the first time he assaulted me. Guilty for remaining his friends instead of walking away from his pushing and manipulation. I contacted j’s mom after my husband did with the message at bottom of this page. J accused that i contacted her because i was lying and that is why i didn’t want  her to be involved in the knowledge of his assault or because she supposedly told of the proof he had.. He has nothong but messages where i was forever telling him… “We can’t do that”  Yeah.. Like i am really so worried about her knowing about it cause i was “lying.” That doesn’t even make any sense. I told her because as mother myself i know how horrible i would feel if someone told me that about my kids. I didn’t want her life in shambles if i wasn’t pressing charges. Why break her heart that her son is a perverted, sexual assaulting, manipulative total piece of garbage that also does nothing but talk crap about her. I didn’t have the proof of what he did. To go to court would be pointless. In what world would a sexual assaulter ever admit what they did anyway? If he did admit it he knows i could press charges if i wanted to. plus, by his own admission, he hates being labled as the bad guy. Let’s think about this for a minute… If i say he assaulted me but i plan on not pressing charges and just want to write my feelings out instead, i have nothing to lose.. If he admits what he did everyone will look at him as a sick individual, with possible jail time… He has more to lose to not lie then i do for telling the truth. So yes, a sexual assaulter is not going to say sorry. It makes more sense that he would be lying then me. Duh! I have nothing to gain from this lie he claims i was telling.


Author: heidifowler

I'm a 34 year old with 3 wonderful kids, an amazing husband that ended up rescuing me from who i thought was trying to rescue me. i am the woman that makes mistakes but learns from them. i am not who i was a little over a year ago. last year i was easily manipulated, being made to feel guilty, and struck down by people i trusted. this year i have learned about myself and still learning...how to be strong. how to protect myself and never be a victim again.

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